Reva and Avinash met at one of the professional meetings and instantly got attracted towards each other’s radiance of countenance. Soon they became inseparable and later got married officially.
As soon as they came back from their honeymoon, Reva started to feel like something is off. Initially she named it a transitional phase and tried to ignore it for a while. Slowly she started noticing changes in Avinash’s behaviour. He started staying late at office than being with her, there was no physical intimacy and sometimes she felt like she is living in a pressure cooker which never whistles! She started noticing him being with his gadgets more than ever, some strange calls and messages were bumping, some unsorted money matters were pending and there was no trace of incoming money, she was no more attractive for him and it all started in the very initial stages of their married life which made her life miserable.
She started blaming herself for not being ‘good enough’ for him. She was constantly in the state of second guessing herself. Upon confronting him for some of his wrong deeds, she was fed with self-doubt and confusion. She knew that he was not honest, she could sense it but he always has his reasons ready for every question she asked. She knew that the answers from him were never logical and she always lost her track in arguments due to his illogical answers.
Reva was sad, depressed and tired of her life. Her mind was filled with suspicion and that’s when she started digging out the things behind his back. She checked his gadgets for his call history, messages and chats, his digital footprints and the results were shocking! She learned that Avinash was secretly desiring another men. He was a closeted gay!!! Reva was completely shattered by this fact and she legally parted her ways with Avinash.
Is this any new reason for separation? No! This has just started surfacing as many women have started becoming vocal about it. These kinds of marriages are typically called as mixed-orientation marriages a.k.a mismarriages. This is also becoming one of the common reasons for divorce like adjustment issues, financial issues, temper issues, violence, substance abuse, etc.
There is a need to acknowledge this issue by the society. Parents, especially mothers need to discuss all the issues with the child freely and in healthy manner. Only speaking about or accepting certain sexual orientation, speaking in support for the rights of such people won’t suffice, one needs to include them in the mainstream and allowing them to be treated like any other heterosexual person will make them feel included and only then such wrong marriages can be stopped from happening.
Why such marriages happen will be discussed in forthcoming newsletters. Stay tuned!